I’m sure we’re all aware of the fall of once popular YouTuber Commentator, JustDestiny. If you’re not, this video from BlackWolfCompany explains it beautifully, but I’ll summarize it (please give the video a watch, though. It’s quite good!). A fifteen-year-old YouTuber named LtCobra made a video called, “The Darkside of JustDestiny”, in which he talks about the ethics of JustDestiny’s usage of thumbnails of underage girls. After a very brief exchange on Twitter, JustDestiny not only blocked LtCobra, but issued him a false copyright strike against his video as well as served him a Cease and Desist Order. This made many, many people in the Commentary Community both suspicious as to why he would falsely strike it instead of having a civil conversation as well as why he issued the strike in the first place.
JustDestiny claims that LtCobra’s video of him was “slanderous”, but as both LtCobra and BlackWolfCompany said, the original video wasn’t slanderous, it was critical. In fact, LtCobra admitted in a followup video that he didn’t originally think that JustDestiny was a pedophile. He never called him that, he was just critical of the usage of underage girls in JustDestiny’s videos. What really got people to start asking if he is indeed a pedophile, is the weird way he went about censoring LtCobra’s video instead of replying something to the tune of, “I was just doing it for the views. Nothing more, nothing less, but I see your point.” (This is also mentioned by both LtCobra and BlackWolfCompany.)
I want to take you back to 2018 when I started being served quite of few plates of humble pie (I hope I never talk about this again after this article. Such a mess has been made out of something so small and I know I’m a big reason as to why that is). I got into a stupid argument over an influencer with a person whom I had once interviewed on this blog. It was so dumb, on both our ends. She was upset that I didn’t believe what this influencer said and seemed to take it very personally. In fact, more than one person took it way too personally. It was just my opinion, that was all. But after I unfollowed her, she blocked me. I was surprised. And this is when fists went flying. I accused her and others of “bullying” me when they weren’t. There’s a difference between criticism and bullying and I was overreacting big time. So, after an embarrassing meltdown, I eventually returned to Twitter thinking this would all be water under the bridge. How silly of me!
I found out that a few of my friends had taken her side. Why? Come to find out that she had not only been taking our emails out of context, saying that I “attacked” her with my words, but that I had caused her a miscarriage because she was so stressed over our brief exchange. I can get more into this if you want me to in another blog, but I truly don’t believe our short Twitter dispute caused her miscarriage.
I did not handle this well. What followed was me deactivating and reactivating my Twitter account, throwing hissy fits because I was still blocked. I was eventually unblocked by her for a very brief moment so she could tell me to get over the whole thing because “that was four months ago,” while also calling me a “little bitch.”
This all imploded when I once again rejoined Twitter earlier this year. I sent off a Tweet in which I blamed her for the fall of my “reputation.” (I thought very highly of myself during that moment, didn’t I?!” This, of course, led a lot of people to become angry and also confused as to why I did that and also, why it was still bothering me?
I mention all this because while I have never experienced the kind of fall JustDestiny has, I can sadly relate to his immature antics and how not to handle criticism. When I did an interview with him last year (which is on private for right now), he hinted at a troubled past. I wonder if the reason why JustDestiny can’t handle criticism is for the same reason I haven’t been, a past that included verbally abuse abusive from a loved one?
Now, this is in no way an excuse, there are dozens of reasons why JustDestiny can’t handle criticism, but I know that being so thin-skinned is not a way to live, not on the web and certainly not in real life. Even if you’ve had a troubled past like I have that included a lot of verbal abuse, that’s not an excuse to act out online.
So, we’ve learned why one might act out in an irrational, immature way (again, not an excuse), but what else can we learn? I, for one, can tell you that I was still in that same toxic environment while this internet mess was going down and I finally had to make drastic changes in order to remove myself from that situation, or else my mental health would continue to grow weaker. (I have bipolar, generalized anxiety disorder, and OCD.) I’m now reentering therapy and have worked out my medications with my doctor, as well.
I’m putting this out there because I think JustDestiny may be in a situation in his personal life that he can’t remove himself from, so he takes it out on people who challenge him online. Remember, this guy is at least twenty, if not twenty-one by now, if his situation is similar to mine, it may not be so easy for him to leave. I know a lot of you are thinking, “He’s old enough to live on his own,” but we don’t know why or if he’s in a situation where he’s “stuck” (if that even is the case). Yes, he’s at an age and a financial situation where he can remove himself from whatever situation he might be in, but again, we don’t know if it’s that easy. JustDestiny is a very private person and from our interview, he’s not interested in sharing the trails and tribulations he’s been through and quite possibly be still going through.
If you are in a situation where you are “stuck” in a toxic situation, then I implore you to not only seek out a therapist but confide in those you trust most by creating a support system. Whatever situation JustDestiny is in, I suggest that he steps back from being an online commentator for the next several months, and start looking into why his feelings are so fragile. This isn’t an easy process and you’ll have to uncover some things that you’ve kept buried deep inside, but if he wants to return to his platform, he needs to do a lot of soul-searching. Again, this isn’t easy and I can personally attest to that, but what’s the alternative?
Now, to address the elephant in the room, do I think JustDestiny is a pedophile? Short answer, no, I don’t. I believe he used these inappropriate thumbnails because he only wanted views. JustDestiny didn’t see these children as who they are, underage people who he sexualized for thumbnails, he saw them purely as a way to get views and money by people watching his videos. But, he went about this so poorly, that people are now labeling him as a pedophile, because in a lot of people’s eyes, if JustDestiny is this fragile over even being questioned about it instead of being honest, then what else does he have to hide?
In my opinion, JustDestiny is similar to me, it doesn’t matter your age, mentally, you can still have the insecurity of a kid deep down and that’s not only the problem I see with him, but it’s a huge problem I have that I’ve been ignoring for far too long.
I don’t have all the answers right now as to handle criticism in a classier way, because I’m having to build that thick skin in therapy right now while working through a lot of hurt, anger, and pain. But as hard as it probably is for him, JustDestiny needs to (like I said), take a long break, leave his online persona behind for right now, and get to know his real, authentic self. I cannot stress enough that this isn’t an easy process and it can take a long time to sort through everything. I have a feeling that he wants to get back to the online character he’s created and get back to doing videos, but that’s not an option right now.
I’m truly not trying to make excuses for his behavior, because he’s wrong and has been in the wrong for quite some time. I just see an insecure little boy inside of him that is throwing a tantrum online right now and really needs to be taught the lessons about self-esteem, that I don’t believe he possesses.
Again, watch the video linked above, as it gives you better insight into this situation. I don’t know if he can come back from this and he may not see it as fair, but again, it’s taken me a long time to learn the hard way that many, many things in life won’t work out in your favor, even if it isn’t “fair.” That’s a hard pill to swallow, but that’s the way life is. We live in a world where not everything is “fair” and that is a lesson every person needs to remind themselves of, myself included.